Recently, I’ve been thinking a lot about how much people judge each other. Throughout our lives, we have all judged someone. I’ve done it. You’ve done it. We all have. And sometimes, we don’t even realize when we are doing it. But the question is WHY do we do it? We have no right to judge someone else. Just like someone has no right to judge us. We don’t know what someone has been through in their life. We don’t know what adversities they have faced. So why judge someone when you literally know nothing about them or their life? And even if you think you know someone, chances are you still don’t know anything that they have been through.
Every time we judge someone, we miss the opportunity to truly get to know them because we are so focused on what WE think about them even though we know absolutely nothing about them. I think we all need to stop judging each other and placing stereotypes on each other. What do we really gain by doing that? Nothing. We gain nothing from judging someone except for a misguided portrayal of them.
Yes, I have judged someone before. And I was wrong to do that. Just like its wrong for someone else to judge me as well. And after thinking about this topic many times, I don’t want to be that person who just judges other people. And I’m not going to be anymore. And I hope that some of you after reading this will be right there with me. It’s time to make a change.
“Don’t let your past dictate who you are, but let it be a lesson that strengthens the person you will become” – Unknown
We all have a past. But at one point in our lives, we are all guilty of not being able to leave behind something that was bad in the past. Instead, we let it come with us to haunt us in the future. Whether it be a bad memory, or just something you’re not proud of. Whatever it is, we have all experienced problems leaving something in the past. And what do we do instead of leaving it all behind? We let it destroy us. We let it define who we are. We let it eat us alive. We then start to think of ways that we could have changed or prevented whatever it was from happening. We question ourselves on why it happened. What should we be doing instead? Leaving it behind in the past where it belongs. The past is unchangeable. So why dwell on it? Use your past as something to help strengthen who you are today. If you are constantly thinking about your past, you’re letting it find a way to make you unhappy with yourself in the future. The moment you leave something behind, the happier you will be. Don’t let your past steal your future. The best thing you can do for yourself accept the past, and finally let it stop haunting you.
I, myself, have recently decided that I needed to accept my past and move on and leave it behind. Why? Because one day, I once again found myself getting upset over something that happened so long ago. And I finally stopped and then asked myself: “Why am I continuously letting myself get upset over the same thing over and over again when there is nothing I can do to change it?” And I thought about my question. Over and over again. And I couldn’t think of an answer. I still can’t. And that’s because there isn’t one. I was simply letting myself get upset over and over again for absolutely no reason. And I did that to myself for so long. A year to be exact. And a year later, I am just now realizing that I was living in the past for far too long. And I wish I would have realized it way sooner.
Accept your past. Don’t let it ruin you. Don’t let it haunt you. Don’t let yourself get upset over and over again over something you cant change. Just accept your past, and move on from it.
Say goodbye to your past.
“Once you’ve accepted your flaws, no one can use them against you” – Unknown
Flaws are what make us human. Flaws are what make each and every one of us beautiful and unique. Instead of hating your flaws and hating yourself because of them, you should be accepting them. Why constantly put yourself down over something that we ALL have?
Stop hating yourself because of them. Don’t let them control you. You have to conquer them. As soon as you can learn to love and accept your own flaws, the happier you’ll be. Why? Because you will finally realize that you ARE beautiful. And that it’s okay to have them. If other people can accept your flaws, then you should too. However, throughout life, you will run into some people who can’t accept your flaws. But the only reason they can’t accept yours, is because they haven’t yet accepted their own.
“If a person can’t handle your flaws, then they don’t deserve to see your gifts.”
The people who can accept your flaws are the best kind of people. Because not only have they come to accept and love their own, but they have come to accept and love yours as well. And that’s the kind of people we should be. The kind who not only accepts and loves ourselves, but loves and accepts others too 🙂
Our flaws are what make us flawless.
All everyone wants these days is to be perfect. Why? Because society has brainwashed us into thinking that if you don’t live up the standards of what society thinks is “perfect” – that you’re not good enough. That you’re not beautiful. Or that you don’t belong. Society promotes the idea that in order to be “perfect”, you need to have a clear, acne free face. That you have to have a skinny waist and a thigh gap. That it’s not okay to have flaws. Or that you have to wear lots of make up to even be considered pretty. And because of those ideas, there are girls who STRIVE to be looked at as “perfect” and will do anything to obtain that image. Some will even damage their health in order to achieve it.
Society is sending out the wrong message. The message that should be broadcasted, is that there is no such thing as perfect. That it’s okay to have flaws. That your flaws are what make you beautiful. Why? Because it’s perfectly normal, and all humans have flaws. I think it’s important to accept and love your flaws because how will you ever learn to accept and love yourself if you can’t? Your imperfections are what make you beautiful. And the sooner you accept all your imperfections, the happier you’ll be. How do I know that? Because I, recently, have come to accept the fact that I’m not perfect and that its okay to have flaws, and that everyone has them. I now have more acceptance towards myself than I ever have before.
I am imperfectly flawless.
Happy New Year! As the new year begins, I have felt motivated and inspired to try & start new things this year. So I thought to myself, why not start a blog? And with that, you might be wondering: “Really? Out of all things, she chose to start a blog?” And my answer to that is, well yes, why not? Life is all about trying and experiencing new things. And because of that, I have made a vow to be more open minded this year. I want to experience as many new things as I can. You too, should make a promise to yourself this year. And on that note, I wish you all a great 2015.